Take 5 and Make Your Relationship Sizzle

Take 5 and Make Your Relationship Sizzle

Dr. Karen Carpenter, Relationship & Sex Therapist
Dr. Karen Carpenter, Relationship & Sex Therapist

Take five, a famous jazz tune that many of us know just from listening to it on so many occasions. But today I want us to take a journey through the five senses; sight, smell, taste, hearing and touch. This journey is a way to put sparkle back into your relationships. SIGHT Starting with the sense of sight, a great way to pick up the pace is to prepare the traditional candle light dinner for just you and your partner, but for a change get all dressed up and stay in. Yes, dine with your partner with both of you looking your very best. You would be surprised what a treat this could be. Delight in your partner’s well groomed appearance and let him have something to complement in you too. SMELL Smell, is probably the most vibrant of our senses. Use it to create an exciting evening together. Gather up five of your partner’s favourite scents. Ask him or her to shower and lie face down on a towel. Now create a line of dots going down his spine to the base. Each dot should be a different fragrance. Now gently use your fingertips to blend these smells together, starting from the base and moving in semi-circles onto the back. By the time you get to the base of the neck, not only will the room be filled with the most amazing aroma, but your partner should now be both relaxed and aroused. Enjoy the rewards. TASTE Taste can also change our mood from mildly interested to salivating with desire. Prepare a tray of bite-sized portions of foods such as: cheesecake; rum dipped chocolate cherries, mango, cooling ice cream or sorbet. Ask your partner’s permission to blindfold them then feed them delectable treats with your fingers. Ask her to describe each taste. Make sure the portions are small enough to finish in one bite and select melt-in your- mouth foods. You can repeat flavours, mixing them to add novelty. Add some kisses for full effect. SOUND Sound is another wonderful way of communicating your love. Take some quality time together. Create a playlist of your partner’s favourite love songs and lie in bed together and listen to the songs. Sing along and cuddle as you reminisce about the first time you heard these songs together. TOUCH Touch is tantalizing for many people. So here’s the final touch on the journey through the five senses. Prepare a bubble bath for you and your partner. Get out some wine or your favourite drink, served in wine glasses and spend a leisurely half hour sponge bating each other. Just talking to each other uninterrupted can be a wonderful, sensuous gift. This is a perfect moment to bring all five senses together with music in the background and fragrances and bite sized treats waiting to tempt all the other senses. It really doesn’t cost a lot to be romantic. It simply takes a little imagination and time. |P|

By Dr. Karen Carpenter, Relationship & Sex Therapist

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